Between who you were and who you’re becoming

Transition is a strange phase. It feels like a pause between chapters: the old already faded, the new is only forming.

The old no longer “works,” and the new hasn’t taken shape yet. And right here most people make a typical mistake: they start pushing themselves, as if transition is a breakdown that must be fixed urgently.

No. It’s not a breakdown. It’s recalibration.

Why it feels so hard

In transition the brain wants two things at once:

• predictability (so it’s not scary)
• control (so it’s not shameful)

But transition gives neither. So you feel:

• anxiety without a “reason”
• sadness about the past that won’t return
• irritation at yourself because “it’s time to decide”
• envy toward people who seem to “know for sure”

In reality, they don’t know either. They just hide it better.

The trap of “urgently invent yourself”

When it’s very uncomfortable, you want a quick solution:

• a new job
• a new project
• a new role
• a new lifestyle

Sometimes it really helps. And sometimes it’s just escaping uncertainty, disguised as “decisiveness.”

The worst scenario is choosing something only to:

• not feel emptiness
• not explain to others that you’re “in process”
• prove to yourself that you’re not stuck

What really works in transition

Transition is passed not by one big decision, but by a series of small clarifications.

Try this structure:

1) What have I definitely outgrown already?

Not “what I hate,” but what is no longer mine.

Examples:

• a regime that drains you
• people/contacts that pull you down
• goals that were imposed
• a rhythm that isn’t yours

2) What do I want to keep from the old?

Transition is not erasing life. It’s transferring what works.

3) What do I want to test (not choose forever)?

Instead of “choose a path” — run a 7–14 day test.

For example:

• 2 short tasks daily in a new direction
• 3 conversations with people from another field
• 1 small result you can show

Transition is not “who am I now,” but “what do I need right now”

Very often the right question isn’t about identity, but about state:

• do I need calm or movement?
• do I need structure or space?
• do I need to close chaos or add meaning?

This isn’t philosophy. It’s hygiene.

If you feel like “I’m between who I was and who I’m not yet,” that’s a normal state. Give yourself the right to a gentle transition, not harsh decisions.

👉 In MeIn5 you go through 5 short days that help you gather clarity without the pressure of “decide right now.”